Eliminate Internal Negative Chatter

The first step is one of awareness. It will be hard to make a change to positive thinking without being acutely intimate with the thoughts that run through your mind. Recently, I was amazed to discover deep buried emotions from negative thoughts that I had for fewer than 10 minutes. Without awareness, I would have carried the hurt and anger inside. Awareness helped me to bring them out to the open for me to deal with.

Undoubtedly it will not be easy to make a switch if you have a long history or negative self talk. Your talk became negative over the years due to various factors. For instance, if your first grade teacher repeatedly told you that you were "stupid", you might believe it to be truly the case. You would find that your inner chatter would often be filled with talk of "I am so slow" and "it is so hard to learn". If you constantly tell yourself such negative stories, your actions are going to reflect your low self esteem. It will be difficult to get very far if you are always putting yourself down.

A common negative talk involves telling yourself "I can’t". When you say to yourself "I can’t" or "it is too difficult", you are creating a resistance. Having such a mental block will prevent you from achieving a task you could otherwise succeed at.

Anytime you catch yourself saying "I can’t…", turn around and challenge your own claim with, "Why can’t I?" Research shows that most geniuses became the people they are also because of the hard work they put in. So if you would like to be successful, you need to start saying "I can" a lot more.

A great method that I have also found useful is to say "Cancel Cancel" each time I find myself saying something negative, whether in the mind or verbally. The method works if you sincerely have the intent of becoming a positive thinker.

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positive Affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements of a desired outcome or goal. They are usually short, believable and focused. By repeating them over and over again, you build inroads into your subconscious mind, opening up the possibility of a new state of thoughts.

An important step when repeating affirmations is that you need to read your affirmations aloud with feeling. The mere reading of the words bears no consequence unless you put some emotions behind them. Of significant fact is that your subconscious mind takes any orders given in complete faith and after repeated self talk. So the daily practice of repeating affirmations is important.

Initially you may be skepticism toward the statement of your positive affirmation. However, if you follow this simple set of instructions your skepticism will soon give way to a new set of beliefs and then crystallized into absolute faith.

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positive Scripts

One thing that you may observe is on how easy it is for your mind to build negative thought upon negative thought. The chatter not only does not stop but it spins a drama that traps and limits you.

From now on, regularly do this exercise instead. Spin an uplifting story that runs like a movie script. Some visualization will be helpful. You build on a story with a positive outline. The longer you can tell this story to yourself the better. It is also best if you can make this story one about having all your goals achieved. When you do this, you start to internalize your goals and dreams, as if they are something that you have already achieved.

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Replace Negative Influences with positive Ones

It is important that you identify external negative factors in your life which may be holding your thoughts hostage. For instance, your mental state can become toxic by being around friends who are negative. If you are not vigilant enough, you will start to adopt their thoughts as your own. Hence, be alert to what your negative influences are. If they come from certain friends, limit your exposure to them as much as you can. Refrain from discussing your plans with people who will be unsupportive of your dreams and goals.

Instead surround yourself with thoughts and actions from people who will empower you.

From being uninspired and de-motivated, you will begin to feel uplifted and driven to greater self growth. The positive energy that they vibrate will start affecting the self talk that you engage in as well.

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Present Tense Messages

You may find yourself daunted by the many things you need to do in order to reach your goals. It just seems overwhelming to become the success that you secretly desire for. Your mind gets caught up in an endless stream of worry.

What may be helpful is to concentrate on steps you can take in the present. If you find yourself becoming stuck, stop and say, "What can I do right now?" Change your internal talk from a future anxiety ridden one to one that is about the more manageable present. You cannot control what will happen in the future but you can take the necessary steps now that will build a better tomorrow. Taking the necessary steps require you to focus your thoughts and inner talk on Now.

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Confront Fears

Fear is often what holds you back from your success. You are scared of taking chances because you fear losing the security that you enjoy now. You try to convince yourself that you are happy in your current state when in fact, you are not. Your self talk may sound positive in your attempt to lie to yourself. But somehow, there is an inner knowing that you are short changing yourself.

Ask yourself what you are afraid of. What can be the worst that can happen? Take a step-by-step approach in breaking down your fears and see if there is any way round to looking at things more positively. When you confront your fears, you will often realize that the worst case scenario is not as bad as you think. In fact, the benefits of change are worth the risk. Your inner talk begins to change at this point.

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I take myself on dates. I go to the movies alone. I wander museums alone. I eat meals alone (and yes, that means I resist all temptation to scroll through Ins while waiting for my meal). I sit in coffee shops and journal alone. I take the train and go to new towns and walk around alone.

我跟自己去約會：我獨自看電影，獨自在博物館閑逛，獨自吃飯(是的，這是說在等待飯菜上來時，我抵制住所有刷Ins的誘惑)。我坐在咖啡館里，獨自寫著日志。我一個人乘火車，前往新的城鎮(zhèn)，然后獨自在那里四處走走玩玩。

I realize this may sound super dorky. You're probably thinking that I must be pretty weird and very lonely. Interestingly enough, I was way more lonely before I started spending time alone. The feeling like I needed to be around people all the time to take a deep breath -- that was loneliness. The feeling of complete anxiety and fear when a boyfriend broke up with me -- that was loneliness. But this? This is peace. This is fun. This is what self-esteem is built of. Here's how I learned to spend time alone.

我意識到也許這聽起來超級蠢。你很可能會想，我肯定十分怪異、非常寂寞。有趣的是，我在開始獨自生活前是更加孤單的。那種就像我需要一直跟別人待在一起才能做深呼吸的感覺，是孤單。男朋友跟我分手，那種極為焦慮恐慌的感受，是寂寞。但現(xiàn)在這種場景呢?這是平靜，是趣味，是構(gòu)建自信心的基礎(chǔ)。以下是我學會獨處的方法。

I just did it. And let go of trying to look .我只是一個人獨處，并不去想怎么盡量看起來酷。

2. Make a list of your favorite things. And don't wait for anyone. 列出你最愛的事物，不要等任何人跟你一起去踐行。

3. Schedule It. And don't cancel on yourself. 計劃時間，不要取消與自己的約會。

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For the past year, I've been single by choice. Not by circumstance. Not because no one will ask me out or I can't find anyone eligible. It's hard for some people to believe that I am choosing not to date, and I often get weird looks and confused grunts from my old aunt and college friends alike. Why would someone voluntarily choose to stay single? To spend time alone? Aren't I missing out on life by not going on Tinder dates? What if The One is out there but I don't catch him because I'm too busy staying single?

過去一年中，我選擇保持單身。這不是因為環(huán)境因素，不是因為沒人約我出去或是我不能找到合適人選。有些人很難相信我選擇不去約會。大姨和大學同學們老是對我投以怪異的'眼神和不解地咕噥。為什么會有人愿意保持單身?愿意獨自一人消磨時光?沒有繼續(xù)在Tinder上相親的我，難道不是錯過了生活(的樂趣)嗎?要是我命中注定的另一半就在Tinder上，但我因為忙著保持單身而錯過了他，那怎么辦?

I'm not the slightest bit embarrassed to say out loud that I've been dating myself and it's been the most nurturing, sustainable, and non-anxiety inducing relationship I've ever had. There's no waiting to be texted back (or obsessing about if my text is too flirty, too needy, too wordy), and there's no feeling like another person just doesn't understand me.

大聲說出我正和自己相約，一點也不讓我尷尬，而且它是我所有的關(guān)系中最滋養(yǎng)人、最持久也最不會引發(fā)焦慮的。我不需要等待他人的回復(或是費神考慮我的短信是否太過輕浮、有求于人或是冗長啰嗦)，另外我也不會再有那種就是有人無法明白我的感覺了。

That doesn't mean I don't plan on dating other people in future -- I definitely do. But I know now that the relationship I've built with myself is a model for the relationship I want to be in. I'm kind and patient and gentle and loving and forgiving of myself. I laugh at my mistakes and I let go of my errors. I am strong and courageous. That's the kind of person I want to be with and the type of relationship I hope to be in.

這不意味著我將來不打算談戀愛(我當然會談啦)?？晌胰缃衩靼祝c自己建立的這種關(guān)系是我想要與另一半相處的模式。我友善、耐心、溫柔、友愛又寬容。我對自己犯的錯誤一笑了之。我強大而勇敢。這便是我想要的對象，也是我希望同他建立起的戀愛關(guān)系。

I know now that I'm not going into the relationship as a half, I'm going in as a whole. So whether it works out or doesn't work out, deep down, I haven't lost anything. I'm still me. I'm still complete. I still have the friendship I've built with the me that I've grown to know and love over the past 23 years. That's the greatest relief I've ever known.

我現(xiàn)在知道了，我不會在戀愛關(guān)系中有所保留，而將會是全身心投入。因此無論這段關(guān)系是否有好的結(jié)果，在內(nèi)心深處我都沒有任何損失。我仍然是我自己，我仍然完好無損，我同自己建立起的友誼依舊存在，那是我在過去23年中漸漸了解并愛上的。這便是我所知的最大欣慰。

1, please keep a simple, make you more of a people friendly, less soul indifferent; please keep a simple, make you a happy life, less mental aging tired; please keep a simple, make you more of a progressive force, less so high the disillusioned.

2, success is the red rose that you dream of, and the setback is the acupuncture around it. Happiness is your hard work to obtain the fruits of sorrow is that premature blighted grain.

3, the sky clouds accept every one, regardless of beauty and ugliness, so the broad boundless sky. The earth embraces every inch of land, rich or poor, so the land is vast. The ocean accepts every river, regardless of its size, so that the ocean is vast and limitless.

4, when Jane said: "we are equal, I'm not feeling machine, I understand that as a woman's self-esteem; when Petfi said: if it is free, both can throw, I understand the value as a person; when Lu Xun said: don't burst out in silence, we shall perish in silence and I know that people should have the spirit of resistance; when browning said: take away love, the world will become a tomb, I learned for others to love is important.

5, the building stands, because there is a strong pillar, the pillar of ideal and belief is the life of the building; the ship sailing on, because the directions of the compass, ideal and belief is the life of the ship's compass; train Benz Trinidad, because it has guide rails, ideal and belief is the life on the train tracks.

6, what is happiness? Happiness is the orchard farmers looked at the pressure over the branches of fruit with pleasure, happiness is in the classroom the students look forward to the future of the moving smile, happiness is the lab scientists have found when the brows stretch, happiness is the podium athletes at the national flag rising when the tears Ying ying. Happiness is the crystallization of struggle, hard work monument.

7, did not experience bumpy muddy difficult, how can know the value of sunshine Avenue; not experienced snowstorm raging night, how can experience the lovely weather; not experienced setbacks and tribulations test, can realize the joy of victory and success. It's not easy to hate you when you're down

8, happiness, always around you. If you are from the mother took the bowl, be warm, that is happiness; if you read a letter from a friend, in the light of the taste of friendship, that is happiness; if you are sitting in a corner, quietly listening to music, he thought, that is happiness.

9, some people say that happiness is a star hotel table delicacies from land and sea between toast each other; some people say that happiness is the high-grade stage hall moving melody in the dance; some people say that happiness is the end of Audi, BMW in the car with the high street through the streets; also someone says, happiness is to stay in the room number a stack of hundred dollar bills; however, I say: with these, not necessarily true happiness!

10 birds, however, is so worried about the eternal forest; drifting boat, always miss is the harbor; travel travelers, whether it is a night away from home, the hearts of countless, always thinking about the place, or home.

11, what is happiness? Be successful and respected? Quiet and leisurely, without a tie in the world? A, children and grandchildren around the knee? I said, "happiness is."

12, life is like a mountain, it's not the level, but in the scenery; life is like a rain, it's not the size, but in time.